Bestee/Bestie

Tsappening Guys?? Crazy weekend that was. Before I go any further I have an announcement. My nigga @Okem_daniels will be dropping two singles on saturday. “When Goons Cuddle” which is a solo track & “When Street Cries” Ft Wale CV off his “Pink Boxers in the Pen” mixtape. Check back here on saturday. Spread the word. Now, here with me today is a good friend of mine who is gon’ be “ranting” bout Besties/Bestees. Without further Ado,Mr Miami Heat.

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So I’m here to rant about a word I seem to be hearing a lot these days – BESTEE.

In recent times I’ve come across a couple of girls dat say their ‘bestees’ are guys. I’ll have to say I tend to feel slightly uncomfortable when a female i’m tryn to get with especially one I really like tells me that. Even though I am pretty sure i’m not the jealous type,I mean my girl can flirt around on a social network like Facebook and I won’t be bothered as long as she’s there when I need her or when she’s wanted like ‘At your service,Sir’ ;). In most cases the so called Bestee or guy will eventually catch feelings; it’s a deep rooted psychological and physical thing. You can hardly stop those feelings from cropping up. In less complicated terms it’s an accepted norm that most guys, excluding the likes of me & RJ, think thru their d*#ks.
** @ChykElfarooq_RJ:Yup,that’s true.. I think with the cap of my d*#k not the full thing. ¯\..(•͡.̮ •͡ )../¯**

Smh,Anyway in other to be sure I wasn’t being insecure as I was bluntly told,(smh 4 these gehs…mscheew) using my friends as a case study I asked around and also tried to recall if I knew any guy that is/was best friends with a girl on a totally platonic level a.k.a Bestee. Of course I found a lot of them including myself that were ‘friends’ not ‘bestees’ with girls. I mean there’s a ‘thick’ line between friends n bestees. If I’m not wrong a bestee that is off the opposite sex is locked in the friend zone and can never come out, as in you can’t even get ‘Just the tip’ (sad story innit?). More importantly from my own understanding of the friend zone, one side/one partner is always wishing they had something more.
**(@ChykElfarooq_RJ: True That. And let me just say this…every nigga wants a piece of that ass. DO NOT be fooled.DO NOT)** Just do a hash tag search for #friendzone on twitter and you get results like ‘ to you I’m your homie, but see to me you’re the World *sigh*?’ and many more. What does that tone tell you??,niggaz is not happy to be in the friend zone talk less of ‘Bestees’, and if you’re a guy don’t be giving us that – “She’s not my type we’re just friends” like isn’t that contradicting yourself. She’s not your type but you guys spend time every other day. Camman Son!!

 For those I asked that were really close to a girl – sorry Bestees, I found that there were usually some benefits or obvious reasons stopping them from dating/flirting at the time. I’ll list a few out

    1.She has a car and he doesn’t, mostly in a school environment.
    2.She has fine friends who he and his guys flirt around with.
    3.He has a girlfriend and she has a boyfriend that aint around at the moment due to distance or something.
    4.The generally accepted one – she’s not pretty but has really cute friends «« – I like this one sha 😀
    5.Another one which is quite popular these days is both of you are in a so called “Open Relationship” which, from my understanding, means you flirt with your bestee when you feel like but he/she doesn’t stop you from dating others.
    6.Ya’ll are drink buddies or kush buddies….nah scratch that because when ya’ll are high anything can happen!!

 I’ll like to say if u don’t fall into any of these categories or something similar,as in the girl is just there doing her thing and you’re forming bestee – boy check yaself – U is GAY!!

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@ChykElfarooq_RJ: LOL! Or in a more polite manner, A Lil Fagget. Nwais, hope u enjoyed it. 🙂 . And remember to check back on saturday. (‾⌣‾)♉.

  1. I was here..

    • Mystic
    • September 21st, 2011

    Just read this post 2hrs b4 I’m seeing my bestie…. I just might ask him, if he has feelings for me… Tots ur post has/have put in my head… -\~.~/-

    • barbie
    • September 21st, 2011

    Derez nothing rong in a guy being a girls bestie cos my bestie is also a guy… :p.. But err1 has diff opinions tho but I feel I can’t trust a girl wiv my secrets so I can’t av a girl as my bestie.. I feel free wiv a guy as my bestie cos I can tell him everything

  2. Yeah I agree it’s hard to find a guy and a girl who are each others bestie without any issues. Usually for this to be successful, they probably have already gotten to that bridge and crossed it, like maybe they’ve tested the waters and found out they weren’t compatible physically, or they really just appreciate each others friendship so they won’t wanna ruin it with something more.

    • @MissNickiMaraj
    • September 21st, 2011

    Haha! I agree with err Son1aO…

    • terdoh
    • September 21st, 2011

    I wish my bestie would ask if I had feelings for her. Confession toh behd yo.
    Chyke, don’t lose your touch. 🙂

    • 🙂 chai! I wish I could claim this compliment. Sadly it goes to the guest writer @umiedit

    • barbie
    • September 21st, 2011

    I find it easy to trust a guy cos I feel free telling a guy my secret cos a female would definitly sly u.. So I prefer having a male as my bestie

    • @iamsupervillain
    • September 21st, 2011

    LOL. Too much truth in this piece. The phrase “friend zone” still angers my soul. Besties my left egg. Mschew.

    • @umiedit
    • September 21st, 2011

    Haha – barbie is defiant she said her bestie has neva made passes @ her – bring dat boy make we check am
    Nnamdi I LOVE dat comment ya 2mch!

    • @iamsupervillain
    • September 21st, 2011

    LOL. Too much truth in this piece.

    • Daisy
    • September 21st, 2011

    Ok so my bestie is a guy, who has told me and everybody who cares to listen that he is attracted to me. So err…

    • @umiedit
    • September 21st, 2011

    Well u hav him locked in d dreaded #FriendZone, it happens…u can’t rule out d fact dat he might get some compensation at d end of d day 😉

    • Ikhizama
    • September 22nd, 2011

    Yeah, them boys having female bestee’z are lil faggets!!!

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